One thing that kids this age need is constant attention. And by constant I mean like a minute to minute watchover. With Shashank it means that mommy stays within his line of sight – period! The instant mom moves into the kitchen or even to the bath, expect Shash to follow close behind. I refer to this in jest as ‘wherever mom goes Shash follows’ after the Hutch tagline. Jokes apart though, it’s not that I don’t enjoy the feeling of being needed by someone little and my own, but sometimes it feels wonderful and frustrating all at once. The vexation comes from being under constant pressure to keep the house going, have meals ready and the dishes done, the laundry and Shash’s nappies done and dry, getting him clean and fed, attending to Shash’s unexpected accidents (!), and get personal chores done too. And to top it having Shashank follow around as I get everything done is enough to make any mom weep. It ain’t easy being a stay at home mom, especially if you want to have some exclusive mom-baby time.
Perhaps I am painting a bleak picture here, which is definitely not the case. I do try to make lots of time for Shash even if it means letting the house be messy for the day! I pick and fuss over him as I bustle around the kitchen to get his meal ready or sterilize his bottles. And sometimes we stand beside the window and enjoy the breeze and the view as I point out the tress or the people taking a stroll with their pets. We take walks down the block to the nearby park where Shash loves to watch the kids mount the knotted climbing rope, and I carry some snacks for him to munch on there, titbits of idli or mashed sundal. A much needed break for mommy and child at the creative play area in a relaxed neighbourhood – picture perfect! Yes, being a mom sure is tough, but it has its moments. And those are the ones that keep mothers sane!
Filed under: General Mom-Baby Stories
Hey… finally shashank has made you work a lot… he he
Hi Sowmya,
I don’t know you and I came across your blog quite by accident (thanks to the name
) and I read 3 or 4 posts and there are 2 things that came across that I had to tell you…..
Before I go on to those, here is a brief into – am not a mother (yet !) but I have so many friends and cousins with kids that I love hearing (and if possible being part of) their growing-up stories. At the same time, I love writing and having/creating foto collections and I always thought I would do both for my kids.
Firstly, it was mind blowing to see my exact thoughts in black and white and more so, from my namesake !
Secondly, I was always a little intimidated that stepping into the next phase and taking the motherhood responsibility will deprive me of time and hence, my love for writing and I used to console myself saying it was all a matter of priorities. But seeing you blog, in addition to all your chores with and without Shashu really gives me hope….it is indeed a commendable effort ! I know of so many friends who cannot even respond to emails once they have kids and I used to think it was inevitable and not really a matter-of-choice but you are proving it otherwise, thanks !
Keep writing mommy
Sowmya
HI Sowmaya,
I am here for the first time. I understand the fevicol nature, of Shashank…as you said..sometimes is exciting and frustrating…I am also somehow managing…with my son Aryan. very nice blog..keep posting
Aryan’s mom
Wow! u got people from outside ur circle reading it! Gr8 job!